Tuesday, July 26, 2011

The Smartest Man In The World

The other day on the street, I heard a man say to his son that because the father is "no where near the smartest man in the world" the son wouldn't be either. He went on to confirm to his son that people are only as smart as their parents or family are.

What struck me the most wasn't that the father was actually saying this - although that was pretty shocking - it was the fact that this boy, who looked about 8 or 9 years old, believed it.

The only reason the son couldn't be the "smartest man in the world" is because the father told him he couldn't.

Since the boy believes he is incapable of being smart, he won't be. And why shouldn't he believe if his father, who the son presumably admires, trusts and believes in, says so? He won't even try, because that that's what he was taught to do.

It was a powerful blow to see how much a parent's words, example and influence can affect their child.

Monday, July 18, 2011

He's Coming Home.. Soon

Big things are coming. Well, one big thing.

My wife and I are expecting our first child at the end of August: about six weeks from now.

For months, we've been planning for his arrival and wrapping our heads around the fact that our lives - together and individually - will change. It's only been in the past couple of weeks, though, that it's really starting to hit home.

Of course, seeing things like sonogram pictures, watching my wife's belly grow and watching him move inside it were weren't ignored. In the last few weeks, though, our home has gone from a place where two adults lives to a place where two adults and baby (will) live. Considering we've haven't had much contact with babies, that's a big change.

His room, which we call the Quiet Room, is completely rearranged. All the boxes that were there as long-term storage have been cleared out. Shelves and wardrobe units have been put in. They will soon have the baby items we've begun to receive: clothes, covers, cushions and all kinds of contraptions for the little guy we can't wait to meet.

All these changes and physical objects in our home - right in our faces that change way we live - make us realize he's coming very soon.

Friday, July 15, 2011

Another Year, Another Blog

Here we go again. I'm starting another blog.

This space won't replace my current blog Jazz Guns Apple Pie. These blogs will complement each other.

In this space, I'll talk about more personal things like fatherhood, lighter topics (yes, I know JGAP is heavy sometimes) like moving to the suburbs after living in New York City for 15 years, and other random observations that aren't a good fit for Jazz Guns Apple Pie.

Thanks for reading and coming along for the ride.